What Happens in the Champagne Room?
0I didn’t even know the answer to this question when I became a stripper. That’s probably because it totally depends on the club and the club’s management, the dancer, and what the customer wants.
Here’s my disclaimer: I’ve always worked in a clean club. I’ve never been the type of dancer to give extras or even let guys touch me sexually (in the club, of course!). It’s different if I know and like the guy; I’ll probably let him touch my thighs or my hips, but that’s it. So, my experience is limited to what I’ve seen at my clean club. I know there are tons of dancers out there that have seen girls bring condoms to work. That just doesn’t happen at Silk Madison.
The champagne room is not home to an excellent Big 10 school. That’s Champaign. Get a brain, morans. The champagne room is a bigger, more private lap dance area where you get, yep – champagne. Some clubs allow more touching in the champagne room. Some girls allow more touching in the champagne room. Again, it all totally depends on the girl and the club. Just know that if you pay the $300 plus per half hour, you’re probably not going to get much more than champagne, a girl’s undivided attention, and a long lap dance. If that’s a rip off to you, you’re better off visiting an escort. We’re here to tease, not get you off.
Here are some things myself and other girls been asked for in the champagne room:
- Non-erotic massage. Though I’m sure erotic massage happens in some places!
- Blowing up balloons.
- “Punch me in the face as hard as you can!”
- “Kick me in the balls as hard as you can!”
- “Pee in my mouth. Pee on me.”
- “Just hug me.”
- “Can we make out?”
- “Can I suck your toes/give you a foot massage/tickle your feet?”
- “Can I watch you cum? I promise I won’t touch!”
Obviously, this list is not exhaustive. In fact, it’s quite short. But you get the point. There’s no shortage of fetishists out there that come to the strip club to satisfy their urges. And I’m ok with that!
I think Chris Rock’s video for “No Sex in the Champagne Room” sums up what happens in there pretty well.
New Bras & Panties for Sale!
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Damn, I can’t keep up with all of the demand for panties lately! I went to Target and Victoria’s Secret on a silky, shiny panty raid, and I came up with some pretty amazing stuff! I’ve also got a couple Victoria’s Secret bras that I’d like to sell.
If you’d like to order anything you see, send an email to xdominox4@gmail.com. Let me know which pair of panties or bra you’d like to purchase, how you’d like to pay, how you’d like them prepared, and the address you want them sent to. I can either wear them for 24 hours (and cum in them!) or I can simply spray them with my perfume. If you’d like to pay with Paypal, let me know and I will give you my Paypal email address. Prices are listed below the photos.
Silky grey fullback panties, $50.
Silky taupe hipster panties, $50.
Silky grey thong with pink ruffles, $50.
Silky, super shiny Victoria’s Secret hipster panties, $75.
Black push-up bra by Lily of France, 34B, $75.
Pink and Black balconet bra from Victoria’s Secret Angels Collection, 34C, $65
White lace bra by Felina Lingerie, 34C, $60
Fetish Friday – Pegging
0This is actually a repeat from my Tumblr that never made it to this website. It was pretty popular, even for weeks after it was posted, so I hope new and old visitors alike enjoy reading it again!!
We all know some guys like to have things shoved in their asses. Most of you guys have probably at least touched yourself down there. If you haven’t, you’re missing out.
Pegging is the term Dan Savage gave to women that fuck men with strap-ons. I know this grosses some of you out. I actually was not into it at all until someone I started dating told me they wanted to try it. Me, being the incredibly sexually curious girl that I am, decided to give it a try. I’m really glad I did, because it’s a lot of fun. I can’t remember where I read this, I think it was some women’s health article, but something like 70% of women surveyed said that they were much more satisfied with their sex lives since they started pegging.
Some people really get off on the dom/sub aspect of pegging. Generally, the female is seen as the dominant when she’s fucking the guy. Some guys really like to be forced to dress up femininely while they get fucked. Think stockings, panties and heels.
Most strap-ons have additional attachments for the female (mine has a butt plug and an additional dildo for me attached) so she can get off while she’s fucking the guy. I recently thought of buying a pair of vibrating panties or a bullet to wear while using a strap-on… I should probably do that.
I’ve found it’s best to use a strap-on when the guy is on all fours. It’s easier (assuming he’s not way taller than the girl) because there isn’t as much strain on the knees and thighs as when he’s laying on his back with his legs pulled to his chest. But, that position is fun if the girl has big tits and wants to tittyfuck the guy in addition to pegging him. Again, I’m drawing from personal experience here.
If you want to get into pegging, but aren’t used to having anything up your ass, I’d invest in some plugs to train yourself first. Something like this is probably good to start with.
Cam Girl Code of Conduct
0Recently, I’ve heard from a lot of people asking me what I think the Camgirl Code of Conduct should be. Some of the guys out there may not like hearing this, so I apologize for that. I thought that was a great idea, because when I started camming, I wanted to know what people expected of me and what I should be careful about. Here are the rules that I live by:
1. Don’t sacrifice your comfort level for a potential show. If some guy wants you to do an incest roleplay show, and that totally weirds you out, you are completely in the right to turn it down. If you know of a girl that is okay with that sort of roleplay, do both of them a favor and refer your customer to her. This brings me to my second rule..
2. Don’t promise to do something in a show and not follow through. Not only are you making yourself look like a douche, you’re giving all of us camgirls a bad reputation. If the customer asked ahead of time if you do anal, and you say yes, it’s implied that anal is included in your price. Don’t wait until the show has begun to say anal is extra. You’re doing yourself a disservice by not creating repeat business. You’re only hurting your own income by not following through.
3. Don’t badmouth other camgirls. It’s unprofessional and it makes you look insecure. Not to mention, it’s very rude. If you don’t like another girl’s style, or she puts up a bad photo, and you feel the need to vent about it, talk to your friends in real life. Don’t attack her on a social networking site. You will look like an insecure troll.
4. Don’t beg. This is a two way street. We don’t like it when guys come into our room and beg us to “open tits” or “show pussy bb”, so why would the guys like it when you post a blog or a tweet about how your rent is short, your power got shut off, blah blah blah? Plus, it makes you look like you’re not in demand. People aren’t going to buy shows from you if it looks like no one is already paying for your shows. It implies that your shows are not worth paying for.
5. Don’t give fans or customers your personal information. This is common sense. Even if they beg for it, don’t do it. You never know when someone is going to end up stalking you. I will admit that I’ve become good friends with some customers, but it wasn’t until I felt 100% comfortable with them that I was willing to chat with them outside of work. Once you decide to cross that bridge with them, assume they are no longer a customer. Think hard about it before you sacrifice that income.
6. If you must break rule #5, sell your information. Make a Google Voice account and sell your phone number that way. Make an email specifically for your stage name.
7. Don’t be afraid to ban or block guys. If a guy is harassing you, begging, trying to chat you up for free, or seems to be a timewaster, he probably is. Firmly, but politely, ask him what you can do for him. If he says “I just wanted to chat”, tell him you charge $__ for 20 minutes of chat time. Or you could ask if he’d like to know what your rates are for shows. You’re in control of the situation. If he dodges your questions, it’s pretty safe to say he’s a timewaster.
8. Be careful of payment methods that give away your personal information. Paypal is the big one. If you’re going to use Paypal (I advise against it, they are not adult friendly and they will freeze your funds and ban you for life!) create a merchant account. This way, when a customer pays you, they see your business name. If you just use your buyer/seller Paypal account, it will give the person your real first and last name. Google Checkout and Amazon Payments give out your first and last names, too. Accept money through NiteFlirt, MFC, AlertPay, or CCBill to be safe. Also, don’t use ChipIn to raise money for a boob job. If you must, be vague, and say “surgery”. If they catch you, you’ll get kicked out of Paypal.
9. Have plenty of photos and videos available on your website for potential customers. This will help your business. Don’t give away the good stuff – just a short intro video talking about you will give them an idea of your persona. People watch videos more than they read. Customers are inevitably going to want to see photos of you before they buy. Set aside a few good ones that you don’t want to sell (or if you do, put a lower quality version up) to put up on your website.
10. Create a blog post about how to buy a show from you. It’s so much easier than explaining to each customer how to buy a show from you and what you do/don’t do. Include your rates, payment methods, what you do and don’t do, your personal rules, and what toys and outfits you have.
11. Think of a stage name that is easy to pronounce and remember. If your customers can’t remember your name or how to pronounce it, it’s not going to do you any good. You want them to tell their friends. You also want something that can be easily googled.
Fetish Friday – Hybristophilia
0I’m excited to write this Fetish Friday because it’s so rare that I get to write about a fetish almost exclusively held by women. Hybristophilia is better known as “Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome”. Hybristophiliacs are attracted to people that have committed heinous crimes.
I’m sure you’ve read about Ted Bundy, the serial killer that killed over thirty women. Surprisingly, this guy had a ton of female fans while he was in prison. Like many other killers, he’d get fan mail from women proclaiming their love for him. His crazy female fans are a good example of hybristophiliacs. I think it’s pretty safe to say that these women are not normal; they obviously suffer from some delusion. Scott Peterson (the guy that supposedly killed his pregnant wife, Laci) is another great example of a killer with tons of groupies.
There are two types of criminal fangirls- passive and aggressive. The passive fangirls tend to write letters of adoration to men that have committed gruesome crimes, while the aggressive fangirls will offer help in those crimes. Remember the little girl that was kidnapped by the Mormon extremist Brian David Mitchell about ten years ago? His wife, Wanda Barzee, is a great example of an aggressive hybristophiliac.
Most of the women that have this fetish have a background colored with abusive relationships. Big surprise. Some are idealists with delusions about how their relationship with the criminal really is. For instance, they find ways to justify the criminal’s behavior and convince themselves that the criminal was acting within their rights. Others know that what the criminal did was wrong, but they choose to continue their relationship with him anyway.
The Oval Office
0I will be at The Oval Office in Green Bay this Saturday, February 11th with a friend from Silk Madison. I will be there from 4PM until bar time and I’ll be available for private dances and VIP rooms. If you’re from the Fox Valley area, come out and say hi! I don’t make it up this way very often, so it’s a rare opportunity! If you stop in, be sure to tell me you’ve seen my website or that you follow me on Twitter!
My Stripper Suitcase
2I’m always fascinated by other people’s houses, purses, what kind of groceries they buy.. I guess I’m just curious and a tad bit nosy. I wanted to give you guys a virtual tour of my stripper suitcase, not only because there are a ton of voyeurs out there, but there are a lot of new strippers that ask me what I carry around with me.
I’ll start from the left:
1. Baby wipes. Get a giant case of them, because they’re your best friend. Wipe your ass and thighs down after giving dances, or you may break out. They’re also great for removing your makeup at the end of the night.
2. My necklace. This is my trademark necklace. It serves as a conversation starter. I bought it from the Milwaukee Art Museum a few years ago. It was made by some women’s co-op in Africa.
3. A disposable shaver. This is in case you realize you missed a spot once you get to work.
4. Coconut body cream. It keeps your hands and skin soft and hydrated, and it smells nice without being overpowering.
I try to carry dance clothes that can be made into several outfits. Individual costumes take up a ton of space.
On a side note, I am totally against vagina spray. It smells like grandmas, and you’re going to make less money if you use it. Guys like your natural scent, not some sick concoction of baby powder, Victoria’s Secret Very Sexy, coconut, deodorant, and vanilla.
If any new dancers have any questions, feel free to ask me on Tumblr or Formspring!
Help This Gorgeous Lady Get a New Kidney!
0My best friend’s girlfriend, Jes, has suffered from kidney problems since she was 11 years old. She’s been on dialysis for years now. Right now, she’s only 24 and she is in need of another (yes, this will be her second) kidney transplant. She’s on a waiting list of 7-9 years. We all know anything can happen in that amount of time.
She is raising money to pay for her kidney transplant, but she is also searching for a potential donor that is a perfect match. The transplant is going to cost her upwards of $250,000 unless she can find a perfect match willing to donate a kidney. Jes’ blood type is AB positive, which is awesome because that means she can accept blood from just about anyone! Any surplus money donated to Jes’ cause will be donated to the National Kidney Foundation to help others in need.
To read more about Jes, you can visit her fundraising website.
If you’re interested in helping Jes obtain a new kidney, she is approved at the Mayo Clinic for a transplant. To start the donation process, call the Mayo Clinic at 507-266-7868, or contact Jes via her website.
Fetish Friday – Stigmatophilia featuring Airen Star and Emma Ink
0Since I’ve written about weird fetishes the last couple weeks, I decided to do something a little more mainstream. Stigmatophilia is a fancy way of saying that a person enjoys giving, receiving, or watching piercings, tattoos, or branding. Scarification is also included in this fetish. In other words, this one may sound creepy, since most of us associate stigmata with Jesus or a horrible Patricia Arquette movie.
Piercings and tattoos didn’t used to be so mainstream. They used to be edgy and more common amongst punk rocker types. I think I’m one of the only strippers I know that doesn’t have any tattoos. A while back, I made a joke on Twitter about the tattoo removal rate in twenty years and how I’m guessing it might be fairly high. It wasn’t a very well-received joke. Anyways…
You can definitely tie stigmatophilia into the S&M category, assuming one or both partners enjoy the pain and power that go with receiving stigmatification and the forced branding of a submissive. Honestly, though, I think the whole piercing/tattoo fetish has become a purely visual one, at least in the mainstream.
Tattoos are fascinating, not only because they’re a specific type of art, but they may reveal a lot about the person. I’ve worked with several girls that have had scar modifications done. If done well, these can look really nice too. I think piercings are a little more trite, personally, just because there are only so many parts that you can pierce on your body and still be somewhat original.
This Fetish Friday post seemed like a good opportunity to feature a couple camgirls that have some amazing body art. I want to thank Airen Star and Emma Ink for allowing me to use their photos!
Airen is an independent alt model, cam girl and purveyor of soft core smut. She is body and sex positive and loves all things pertaining to body modification. When she’s not getting naked on the internet she enjoys baking, reading comic books and doing generally nerdy things. You can check Airen out on Twitter @AirenxStar and on her website, www.airenstar.com!!
Emma Ink is a fellow nerd and cam girl on MyFreeCams. She was recently featured in Inked magazine! When she’s not nerding it up, she’s working on grad school. She has big plans for the anthropology world when she gets out! Until then, check out her amazing body art (especially her owl!) on EpicEmmaInk.com and while you’re at it, follow her on Twitter @Emma_Ink!
